Kenyan musicians Nameless and Wahu have been married for over 20 years and have faced their fair share of marital challenges. In a recent interview, Nameless opened up about how they overcame these challenges, including seeking professional help, taking a temporary separation, and focusing on self-care.
Nameless said that the first year of their marriage was difficult. They were both young and inexperienced, and they were struggling to adjust to married life. They also had different communication styles, which led to conflict.
“The first year of marriage I was like Kwani I made a mistake,” Nameless said.
The couple decided to seek professional help, and they began seeing a counselor. The counseling sessions helped them to communicate better and to understand each other’s needs.
“The counseling sessions revealed that the issues we were grappling with were, in fact, quite common,” Nameless said. “This revelation offered us a fresh perspective, allowing us to view our challenges as opportunities for growth rather than signs of imminent failure.”
In addition to counseling, Nameless and Wahu also took an unconventional step: they decided to take a temporary separation. This was a difficult decision, but they felt that it was necessary to give each other some space to grow and heal.
“There was a time I moved out at some point, it wasn’t as dramatic but it came at a time we could focus on things,” Nameless said.
The separation lasted for a few months, and during that time, Nameless and Wahu focused on their individual growth. They each worked on their own personal issues, and they also spent time with their friends and family.
After the separation, Nameless and Wahu were able to come back together stronger than ever. They had learned a lot about themselves and about each other, and they were committed to making their marriage work.
Nameless and Wahu’s story is a reminder that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to marriage. What works for one couple may not work for another. However, the important thing is to be willing to communicate, to seek help when needed, and to never give up on your relationship.
